The Mayonnaise Jar (or your Life’s allegory)

It appears this has been around a while on the internet but I just found it. Incredibly important Life Lesson here.


When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day is not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and two cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and fills it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured it into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous “YES”.

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

“Now,” said the professor, as the laughter subsided, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things – God, family,
children, health, friends, and favorite passions. Things, that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the things that matter like your job, house, and car. The sand is everything else — the small stuff.” he said.

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued, “There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are
important to you…” he told them.

“So… pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Worship with your family. Play with your children. Take your partner out to dinner. Spend time with good friends. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the dripping tap. Take care of the golf balls first — the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.”

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled and said, “I’m glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.”


Corruption and Apathy

The overwhelming depth of government and corporate corruption, combined with the pathetic apathy of most in the US has me feeling depressed and drained emotionally.

While our personal technology devices are supposed to help us feel more connected, they do the opposite for me.

Time to disconnect and nurture all that is eternal.

Blessings to Bradley Manning, Edward Snowden, Thomas Drake and all the other whistle blowers and want-to-be whistle blowers. Your sacrifice and courage give me hope.

Refinishing the Teak patio furniture – again

So I originally bought this beautiful used set of teak patio furniture in 2007. Refinished it then with Seafin Teak Oil.

In 2009, I sanded everything and put a few coats of SeaFin Teak Oil on.

It’s now 2013 and here I am again. Only this time I’m putting SeaFin Ship N Shore sealer on first; two coats to be exact. Then 3-4 coats of SeaFin Teak Oil.

I’m also looking for some good quality furniture covers – perhaps that will help what I’m doing now last longer.

I just love my backyard – with the waterfall and bird feeders – incredibly peaceful and relaxing.

I’m at peace with Life….. for today.

Crystal clear vision PLUS a beautiful blessing!

Wow….. just…… WOW.

After eye surgery yesterday, I can see things so clearly now; reading will require some glasses I think but I can’t believe how crystal clear my vision in my right eye is now!

And I had the most beautiful blessing – when I got home from the eye doctor this morning, I was standing in the kitchen waiting for the coffee to brew and a beautiful humming bird came to the fuchsia hanging outside my kitchen sink window – turned away from the plant and looked right at me for a good 3 or 4 seconds! And I could see every beautiful color and detail on this little angel!!


After a short, two week treatment with prednisone last fall, I developed a fast growing cataract in my right eye. And yes, I absolutely believe it was the prednisone because in June of 2012 I had a complete, dilated eye exam and no cataract was found.

I’m deeply grateful for the successful surgical intervention, the great health insurance I have and my crystal clear vision.

We, the People……

Strong words to remind us of our responsibility.

What has happened to our country is nothing less than treasonous.

President Obama has committed treason against We, the People.

His administration has continued the abhorrent, and criminal policies of the former president.

This, despite promising to do the exact opposite.

I never imagined I’d feel compelled to say this but…..

I’m deeply ashamed of my government. And I’m beginning to wonder what the hell has happened to the American people.

Who am I?

My name is Shawnna

But that’s not who I AM

I am a mother to Matt and Ryan

But that’s not who I AM

I work hard every day for a non-profit organization committed to assuring access to health care for all

But that’s not who I AM

I have been ‘in love’ a few times, but never really had that deep, spiritual connection one would call ‘true love’

But that’s not who I AM

Who am I? Today, I am an eternal, spiritual Being committed to bringing Love to all

Tomorrow, I hope to feel the same but this mortal body is subject to emotions that take me different places

I am grateful for today

Father’s Day – 2013

My father was a man of integrity and commitment.

He wasn’t passionate about politics, but I know he loved his country because he always put a flag out every legal holiday. And not just any flag; this one was huge and stretched across the front balcony of our converted duplex apartment.

I find myself wanting to talk to him more and more lately about what’s become of the country we both love. It is truly a fascist state-in-the-making and most people are blind to it.

Not only do they not see it; they don’t want to see it. Wrapped up in their every day lives, they refuse to even entertain the idea that our society is quickly drowning in a fascist toilet.

I wonder what my Dad would think of all of this. I love you Dad – you gave me my sense of responsibility and commitment and for that I’m eternally grateful.


Mother’s Day – 2013

Growing up, I never looked forward to Mother’s Day. Being abandoned by one’s mother leaves a very deep wound.

Today I feel incredibly blessed.

I have two wonderful sons and have done my best to give them a sense of purpose and moral compass. When I have failed – and that is more often than not – I have failed miserably.

Hopefully they don’t feel the same way I did about Mother’s Day.

Love you Matt and Ryan – more than you’ll ever know.




What do bunnies and eggs have to do with Easter?

I’ve often wondered about that – we have so many religious holidays peppered over with seemingly irrelevant symbols.

Then the other day I found this.


That made a lot of sense to me intuitively.

But my spiritual yearning for community and companionship calls deeply. Why am I so alone year after year? My Vedic astrology reading shows it will be challenging for me until 2019. Yes indeed – it sure looks like things will be quite challenging for me for at least five years going forward given my self-inflicted tax problems. Be that as it may – I will always look for the deeper meaning – in everything. My son wrote to me yesterday:

maybe you going through this right now is supposed to be how i learn my lesson?

Yes – I hope so. I’m glad to have whatever suffering I encounter serve as a Life Lesson for my sons.

Easter has profound meaning for Christians – especially those Christians who choose to follow Jesus’ message of Love. Rabbi Rami Shapiro has given me a wonderful Easter homily via his blog – and the message of letting go of fear strikes at the very heart of what the spiritual journey means.

The Meaning of Easter by Rabbi Rami Shapiro

May each of you let go of your fear and embrace Love.