{"id":182,"date":"2004-07-19T10:33:00","date_gmt":"2004-07-19T18:33:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shawnna.wordpress.com\/2004\/07\/19\/2004-california-trip\/"},"modified":"2004-07-19T10:33:00","modified_gmt":"2004-07-19T18:33:00","slug":"2004-california-trip","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/?p=182","title":{"rendered":"2004 California trip"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Just got back from the trip to LA &#8211; Matt&apos;s BD, Kyle&apos;s surprise 50th BD party, Regina&apos;s transition&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Too much to write about now &#8211; I need to process it more.  Here&apos;s what I&apos;ll be thinking about as I fly off to Chicago for a meeting tomorrow and Wednesday (not in any particular order):<\/p>\n<p>*  Regina &#8211; her transition from marriage to divorce is proving difficult with her alcoholism.  Seems to be in denial.  Not sure how I can help.  The visit with her was cut a bit short as I felt it was too toxic an environment for Ryan and I.  I love her so much but given what I went through with my Mom&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.   too many issues came up that created a sense of &#8220;deja vue&#8221;.  Need to pray and think about all of this.<\/p>\n<p>The good news is Vincent (my nephew) is coming up for the first week of August for a visit.  First time ever!  I hope I can be a positive source of emotional and spiritual support for him.<\/p>\n<p>*  Kyle &#8211; our friendship has stood the test of time.  Her family planned a surprise 50th BD party for her &#8211; I was charged with taking her out for the day so they could prepare everything!  She really was surprised because they had a &#8220;party&#8221; for her two days before with just the family.<\/p>\n<p>They invited EVERYONE.  I saw Gwen and Gail &#8211; twins I knew from Jr. High!!  Wow&#8230;..  this was on the last day we were there.  Ryan and I left the party at midnight to begin our journey (drive) home.  The Jetta&apos;s glow plug warning light came on about 50 miles from home.  Manual says to take it to a dealer &#8220;as soon as possible&#8221; as it means there&apos;s something amiss in this system of the car.  Cruise control stopped at the same time &#8211; may be a computer glitch???  ugh&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>*  Money &#8211; as usual &#8211; spent waaaaayyyyyyyyyyy too much.  The next 6 months are going to be difficult financially.<\/p>\n<p>*  Matt &#8211; his 23rd birthday.  He&apos;s really gone now &#8211; I sensed a definite difference in him, in our relationship, in everything.  I suppose that&apos;s good, right?  Kids grow up and move away&#8230;..  part of the process, right??  All needs to be processed, and prayed about.  I want to be a good mother and let go without losing him completely.  Bought him clothes (which he even acknowledged he needed) and paid for an oil change (100% synthetic) and tank of gas for his car.  His car&apos;s oil stick showed NO OIL registering when we got there&#8230;..  wow&#8230;&#8230;.  I guess he won&apos;t learn until he has no transportation, no job&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;   Why do we all have to learn things the hard way?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Just got back from the trip to LA &#8211; Matt&apos;s BD, Kyle&apos;s surprise 50th BD party, Regina&apos;s transition&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230; Too much to write about now &#8211; I need to process it more. 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