Here’s a photo from 2012 (Claudia is on the right; her roommate who was also a former nun is on the left):<\/p>\n
Eventually I thought we became friends. I say “I thought” because it is now clear that she was never a friend.<\/p>\n Here’s a little bit of information about her background.\u00a0 She was a Roman Catholic nun. She quit and entered into a small community with another former nun (pictured above) and was doing spiritual direction. She struggled financially and tried to build a business writing, making music, photography, teaching, and creating dietary supplements.<\/p>\n Eventually she began doing spiritual direction for a woman dying of cancer (Margaret Rothschild Heidorn). Within weeks of the woman dying, she started dating the woman’s very wealthy husband (George Heidorn, formerly with Microsoft). Within 8 months they were married. I was beyond shocked, to say the least. I never imagined Claudia would marry; much less do so simply because her life had become a challenge financially. She stopped communicating with me shortly after that. When I shared how hurt it felt to be simply cut off, she apologized and said she needed 2016 to ‘recover’ (she said she was physically depleted).<\/p>\n I sent her a Christmas card in December of 2016 with a simple Christmas greeting and in early January 2017, she sent me an email telling me to not bother sending one again.<\/p>\n At first I was devastated; I trusted and loved her.<\/p>\n I was OK to be friends with when she was struggling financially, but now that she married into a significant amount of money, she doesn’t have the time or energy to maintain what was supposed to be a friendship.<\/p>\n I’ve learned a lot through this – judge people by their actions, not their empty words.<\/p>\n Hard lesson to learn; very, very hard.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" To think you know someone is the epitome of arrogance. I’ve learned that the hard way. “Claudia” (known professionally as “Pheo Rose Martin”; born Claudia A. Coville) was my spiritual director for many years. I became acquainted with her when …<\/span> Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":true,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[6,9],"tags":[47,49,48,50,44,45,46],"class_list":["post-4217","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-my-personal-blog","category-spiritual-journey","tag-claudia-coville","tag-claudiarose-heidorn","tag-claudiarose-martin","tag-george-heidorn","tag-pheo","tag-pheo-rose","tag-pheo-rose-martin"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4217","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4217"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4217\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5780,"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4217\/revisions\/5780"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4217"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4217"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shawnna.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4217"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/shawnna.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/Pat-Claudia_MemorialWeekend2012.jpg?resize=940%2C835&ssl=1\")
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