Believing in oneself is required for healing. Faith, together with self esteem and personal power are all important factors, because low self esteem reflects ones lack of faith in oneself as well as in the power of the unseen world. Unquestionably, faith is vital for managing the challenges of our every day existence.

Self esteem and conscious personal power sometimes develop at a memorable point in life that signifies initiation into spiritual adulthood. Developing the confidence to pursue goals is one way that personal power becomes an agent of personal change. At the same time an equally impressive level of change can occur within a person’s spiritual or symbolic life. Becoming internally powered shifts a persons centre of gravity from external to internal, a mark of spiritual passage.

The Four Stages of Personal Power

Self esteem became a popular word in the 1960s, a decade of revolution and redefined our view of the empowered individual. Only then did self esteem become accepted as essential to women’s and men’s health which was redefined to include psychological and spiritual health as well as physical health.

More than three decades later we are now directing all these energy patterns towards personal evolution – forming a self that is powerful enough to be~in the world but not of the world~, a self that can enjoy the magnificence of the physical world without allowing the world`s many illusions to deplete its soul.

Revolution, involution, narcissism and evolution are the four stages through which we progress to attain self esteem and spiritual maturity. A spiritual adult inconspicuously involves her or her inner spiritual qualities in every day decisions. One’s spiritual thoughts and activities are inseparable from other aspects of life; all becomes one.

A person may spend years in each phase or only months, but regardless of how long each phase lasts, she will inevitably grapple with its particular challenges to her character, ethics, morality and self respect.

We have to work to discover ourselves, to understand why we keep secrets, or have addictions, or blame other for our own errors. We must work to understand why we find it difficult to receive or give a compliment, or whether we carry shame within us. We need to become comfortable with taking pride in our character and accomplishments. We need to learn the parameters of our character, how much of ourselves we will compromise, and where we draw the line – or even if we draw the lines. Creating an identity for ourselves is based upon self discovery and not upon biological and ethnic inheritance. This first stage of self discovery is revolution.

Stage One – Revolution

Developing self-esteem requires an act of revolution, or several mini revolutions, in which we begin to separate from group thought and establish our own sense of authority. We may suddenly realise we hold an opinion different from our family or our peers, but in either case we will have difficulty freeing ourselves from the group’s energy, whose strength depends upon numbers and opposition to most expression of individuality.

The act of finding our own voice, even in mini revolutions is spiritually significant. Spiritual maturity is measured not by the sophistication of a person’s opinions, but by their genuineness and the courage necessary to express and maintain them. By courage, it is not the intractable stubbornness of two people locking horns, that dynamic is a second chakra power play. Spiritual maturity, in contrast, is the capacity to stand one’s ground as a reflection of a genuine inner belief.

When we develop this kind of inner strength, even in small measures, we are more capable of introspection and self examination. In learning to honour ones personal values and have the courage to make the choices in this way, we gradually replace the influences of our tribe`s group mind with our own inner or intuitive guidance. Once this process has begun, the next natural step is ~involution~, the exploration of our interior self.

Stage Two – Involution

Every new encounter or pursuit we have asks our inner self “What else do I believe? What else do I think? I want to know myself better. This is a request for information” In every new situation information pours in. We get feelings about new people and new circumstances. In this phase, involution, we assess our external world and how well it is serving our needs. Often, this self examination leads us to want to focus on our relationship with ~God~ and our life’s purpose, but we first need to develop a level of internal stamina that gives us the strength to handle the consequences of self examining thought. A common initial response can be in facing this stage though is that some do not wish to go within as self knowledge promotes choice and action, and many people feel unready for either. Once that step has been taken and the ensuing thought processes taken place, involution is followed by a narcissistic birthing of a new image of oneself.

Stage Three – Narcissism

Although the connotation of the word ~narcissism~ can be negative, it is sometimes an extremely necessary energy for us as we work to develop a strong sense of self. Giving ourselves a new image, (hairstyle, clothes, diet} indicates that changes are also occurring within us. While we are in this vulnerable stage, we may get major critical reactions from our tribal or group associates, but narcissistic energy gives us the backbone to re-create ourselves and our boundaries in the face of opposition. The changes in this stage prepare us for the more significant internal changes to follow.

Being who we want captures the significance of the fourth stage: evolution.

Stage four – Evolution

This last stage in developing self esteem is an internal one. People who can maintain their principles, their dignity, and their faith without compromising any energy from their spirit are internally evolved: people such as Ghandi, or Mother Teresa are examples of this. The world is filled with people of much lesser reputations who have accomplished this level of self-esteem of course, yet these two people took charge of their physical environments – and the environments changed to accommodate the power of their spirits.

They were also thought to be narcissistic during some stage of their development. Mother Teresa, for example was almost forced to leave two religious communities in her early days because her vision of service to the poor was much more intense than her sisters could abide. During that time she was thought to be self absorbed and narcissistic. She had to go through a period of deep spiritual reflection, and when the time was right she acted on her intuitive guidance. Like Ghandi she entered into a stage of evolution in which personality became persona – an archetypal force from which millions of people could draw inspiration. As your own spirit takes command, the world will also yield to its force.

Challenges of the Journey

There is nothing simple about developing self-understanding, independence, and self respect. The third chakra is filled with the energy of our personal ambitions, our sense of responsibility, and our respect for our strengths and weaknesses, as well as our fears and secrets that we are not yet ready to face. Because we are often driven with personal conflicts, we meet the spiritual challenge to “become empty in order to be made full” to die to old habits and self images in order to be reborn, with great trepidation. Yet the path to developing independence and maturity is far more than a psychological act of health. Becoming adept at the internal process of self enquiry and symbolic insight is a vital spiritual task that leads to the growth of faith in oneself.

We are all on a spiritual journey one which eventually brings us independence from our past and fears of tomorrow and brings a deep faith in oneself. It is necessary to shed the fears that block us from recognising the beauty in our lives, and come to a place of healing and self acceptance. We can take this spiritual journey daily in the privacy or our own prayers and meditation.

Developing personal power feels like heaven once we have arrived, but the journey getting there can be long and arduous. Life relentlessly brings us to realise the importance of the words of Polonius ~To thine own self be true~. As I’ve said before, self-awareness is the key. For without personal power, life is a frightening, painful experience.

In a healed and healthy state, this area of the body is electric, vital, and inspired. Its radiant light gives rise to true determination and goodwill. By directing the full force of our intention toward our dreams and goals and moving creatively through life, we leave the limiting aspects of our childhood behind. We are transformed into sacred and peaceful warriors capable of balancing humility with authority, and personal will with divine will.

We are biologically aligned to learning this lesson; our bodies thrive when our spirits thrive. The third chakra embodies the Sacred Truth ~Honour Oneself~. As we gain the strength and stamina that come from living with self esteem, our intuitive abilities emerge naturally.

We then move from the first three chakras of ~External~ power to the next rung of the ladder.

These are the chakras of ~Internal~ power,

beginning with the 4th chakra, the power house of the human energy system and

~Emotional Power~.

I will be exploring the chakras more but I’ve a sense that some of us – me included – in our quest for knowledge jumped to the 4th Chakra – Emotional Power – without healing the first three.

It is clear to me the result is a palpable disconnect between the intellectual understanding of Sacred Truths and integration of those Truths within the core of our Being.